The good news. How your children adjust to life after divorce largely depends on how you handle conflict. And the better news, everyone can improve at this. There are people and perspectives that will help.
You should expect to be heard in mediation because mediation is a structured conversation that allows the heat of disappointment to dissipate. The process is strong because it is simple and flexible. This allows complex and seemingly intractable problems to be solved.
The key to a successful mediation is thinking about what you would like to solve at each stage of the process. This is known as the scope of mediation.